Sorry for not posting in forever. It is my goal to post these every Monday-Mommy Monday if you will but I too have a mom and friends that needed some attention.
Yes we hear this all the time our children need a schedule. I consider it more a rhythm of the home. A time when your home is full of activity. A time when it is calm. A time when it is focused. A time when its crazy. All these times are necessary for our children. I didn't recognize how important having a schedule was and what a blessing it was to me until I brought my 4th child home from the hospital. Luckily it was in the summer so I didn't have to contend with a school schedule yet with my 10 year old but I did have a 17 month old and a soon to be 3 year old and to be quite honest I had no idea how I was going to manage it all. The first day my husband went back to work I was a bit nervous but then an amazing thing happened my 17 month old and new baby took a morning nap together. In the afternoon all 3 of my younger children took naps at the same time. They all went to bed at their bedtimes 6:45, 7:00, and 7:15. By 2 months almost to the day my infant was sleeping through the night( I will discuss this topic soon). Our life was scheduled and our home had a rhythm that ebbed and flowed and allowed me time to be rejuvenated myself. To this day over 13 years later we still have a schedule and it nearly mirrors that of my days with infants and toddlers but now it is with tweens and teens.
How do you create this flow you ask? It starts with some building blocks: Wake Up Time, Breakfast, Lunch, Dinner, and Bedtime. Have set times for these 5 things first. Now we are not going to be crazy clock watchers and cause ourselves undue stress but lets say you are having dinner around 5:30ish. Waking up at 7ish. Make an about time and leave a bit of wiggle room for yourself. Next slip in naps and snack times. For those with older children reading time, homework, a time to veg from a busy school day.
It's amazing how having a home that ebbs and flows and is predictable creates such peace even amongst the craziness of it all. Your children know what to expect, you know a break will becoming, when a wrench gets thrown into the day you all handle it well because the next day will be back to a comfortable normalcy.
Try a "schedule" and see if it brings a bit of peace into your life...even when your toddler is laying on the floor screaming about something in audible you will know in 30 minutes they are taking a nap and you can do it!!!