I had a few posts entitled They CAN Do It where I shared ideas of how to help your children be a little more independent. I wanted to share an example of this independence around our house this morning.
The conversation went like this: My youngest who is 6 came into the living room and said quite proudly(a quick preface he is a talker),
"Mom I got the toaster out, made my toast, put peanut butter on it, put the toast on the plate, put the plate on the table, put the toaster away, put the peanut butter in the cupboard, and put the knife in the sink." My reply to this was a huge smile and then I said, "Yep your right that is exactly how you make yourself breakfast."
This summer so far I have made breakfast 1 time and that was for Fathers Day. Our children have the capacity to learn and to take care of themselves they just need someone to show them the way. I can't tell you how many times I showed him how to plug in the toaster, how to unplug the toaster, how to put it away safely, how to close the bread bag so it doesn't get ruined, how to put the lid on and off the peanut butter jar, what knife to use, where everything goes after...etc...you get the point there is a lot to learn when you are making yourself toast and cleaning up after but the time spent was sooooo worth it. We could say yeah he can make toast but those skills transfer, he can make himself a peanut butter and jelly sandwich, pb&j rollit(in a tortilla), he can make toast while I am making eggs, but most importantly it is how he feels about himself. He was proud of himself, he had self confidence in knowing he could do it and that feeling of I CAN DO IT transfers to other activities in his life. Our children are our greatest gift and one of the greatest gifts we can give them is the confidence to DO.